Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Honor killing!

In the name of the father, son and the holy spirit! - Amen

In the name of the father, son and the whole family - All women are killed!

nuff said!

Sunday, July 4, 2010

You, me and us!

Existence has purposefully created man and woman a little incomplete so that they could embrace each other and make it complete. However, centuries of conditioning has given the terms husband and wife a very narrow connotation. It has shrunk the scope of this relationship. Drop those words from your vocabulary and resolve to be 'friends for a lifetime'. Then, both the man and the woman will sometimes play the mother, sometimes the father, sometimes a kid, then the mentor, the teacher, the mirror and of course sometimes the husband and the wife too. Expand the definition of this relationship and keep it open.

Dignity in a marital relationship is found when one relates to his/her spouse as a complete individual, and not just the body. Observing each other's way of thinking, discussing personal values, standpoints and convictions; getting sensitized to each other's feelings, develop emotional compatibility and taking time to sit together in quietude, develops a spiritual connectivity. Respect the entity of the person and relate to the whole person, not just the peripheral aspect of the other - the body.

Don't try to do in one year what can be done in ten years and don't do in one month what can be done in on year. Most married couples fall all over each other, overdo everything within the first few months and then there is no life left in that relationship. They coexist in a dead relationship bound to be together only for the sake of the rules of the society. What can be tree, dies a plant. Take it slow and make it long.

In life, as well as in a good relationship, the past is irrelevant. The present forms the building blocks. The future is very significant. The present forms the building blocks. The future is very significant, for that is where the two travel together. Discussing day-to-day trifles is nothing less than chatter. Talk future, talk dreams, talk ambitions, and play a part in each other's growth in a nonintrusive manner. That's the way to grow in love.

There's this universal concept that after the wedding, both lives superimpose and there is only one life to live from then on. As a result, women are often forced to live as a shadow of their man in the name of marriage. They tag on, but as frustrated, self-pitying, sacrificial individuals who feel exploited (most still fail to see that too!) The fact is much after YOUR life and MY life has become OUR life, there is still my life and your life. 'Our' life is that intersecting space called marriage. Happiness in marriage depends on how both relate in 'our' space and how this space keeps growing with every passing day. However, he will continue to have his life and she should continue to have her life, In fact, she is at her best in 'our' space when she goes to her space and then comes to 'our' space; the same is true with him. This will ensure one respects each other's space, each other's individual likes, dislikes and priorities, and most importantly, this alone will ensure that one doesn't suffocate the other in the name of love.

Marriage, in its true sense, should improve the quality of life of both involved. Marriage can and should be a continuity of life, magnifying possibilities for both.

A good marriage has to be nurtured and developed. Building a great marriage is an art! Get artistic!